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5 top tips to prepare for a first date

Friday January 16, 2015

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Dating can be tough, but the rewards can offer you more than enough to compensate for the initial scary step into the dating world. If you’ve met someone on a speed dating night that you’d like to get to know better, and you’re planning your first “proper” date, it can be pretty nerve-wracking. With this in mind, we’ve put together 5 of the most important tips to help that first date go well. You never know, it may be the start of something special!

1. Plan your date well

One of the hardest things about a first date is striking the balance between getting to know someone and avoiding awkward moments when neither of you can find something to say. You can take away the stress that comes with conversation starters by doing something interesting that gives you something else to talk about if you’re not sure how much to reveal about yourself. The zoo may be one option, art galleries another. If you go to see a movie or a band, remember to spend some quieter time together afterwards to talk, otherwise, you may as well have been going with anyone!

2. Plan your conversation starters

Planning for gaps in the conversation is great prep for a first date. Write a list (but don’t take it with you!) of things you want to know about your date, and think of some really interesting ones. Not just “what do you like doing?” or “where do you work” though. More interesting questions such as “what would you consider a perfect day” or “if you were famous, what would you like to be famous for?” make getting to know your date more fun, and asking those sorts of questions will make you seem more interesting too.  In addition to this, try and think what your date may find interesting and different about you and practice working it into conversation.

3. Dress well for your date

A first date is a big deal, but in order to project yourself well, dress as yourself. Don’t buy new outfit that pulls you in everywhere so that you can’t breathe on your date, and don’t go for the wow factor if you’re likely to spend all of your date adjusting yourself. You need to be comfortable but looking good, so choose something from your wardrobe you know makes you feel good and that will give you the confidence boost you need.  In the same manner, look after your personal hygiene, smell nice, but don’t use a whole bottle of aftershave or perfume that will remind them of a department store foyer. Subtle scents that only take effect when you lean in close are great.

4. Pay attention

Your date will at some point talk about themselves. Pay attention and ask questions to make sure they know you’re interested. Glancing at your phone to check your Facebook status or looking around the room to see who else is there will likely end in your date getting frustrated and clamming up.

5. Relax, it's just a date

Being overly nervous only tends to lead to you compensating for this by being too overbearing, not talkative enough or coming across as someone who isn’t you. Don’t ever pretend to be someone you’re not. They’re on a date with you, so whilst you should show them the best of yourself, putting on a persona that you can’t sustain will never lead to a long term relationship, and may not even get you a second date.

Remember these top tips for getting through your first date and you’ll be far more likely to not only enjoy your date, but have a good shot at seeing your date again! Good Luck!

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HOW IT WORKS

The beauty of Speed Dating London lies in its no-nonsense approach. You take an equal number of single girls and guys, put them in a room and give them a few minutes to chat with every other member of the opposite sex.

When you get there

Original speed dating events in London normally begin at 7.30pm. You will need to register with our hosts and to begin with they will issue you with a score sheet. This will help you to keep track of the singles that you would like to meet again and perhaps go on a date with. After a short period of mingling, your host for the evening who will run through detailed instructions and give you your starting position if you are a guy or table for the event if you are a girl.

Meet & Mingle

A London speed dating event is split into two halves, each lasting around an hour, there will be an interval at half time of about 15 minutes. You will have between 4 and 5 minutes with each person, after which you need to tick a box on your score sheet - "yes, I would like to meet this person again" or "no. Thanks but no thanks". Or "friend" if you'd like to get to know them platonically. Make sure that you do this after each date to keep track. Afterwards there is an opportunity for everyone to meet and mingle informally - this is often where the real action begins, so make sure you don't disappear too quickly!

Complete your score sheet

After the event you simply tick who you liked on the Original Dating website and the site works about your matches automatically. If the dates you have ticked as a "yes" have reciprocated you have a match. You will be able to view the first names and message them via our site online without revealing your email address until you are ready to. You'll be having proper first dates in no time.