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Can you date someone with different political views?

Wednesday September 19, 2012

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For many of us, politics are a big deal. Some people are even defined by their politics and it becomes an important part of their personality. When it comes to speed dating, some people screen their matches based on their political ideals and affiliations - if they give a wrong answer, they don't have a chance. Is this fair? In a time of high levels of tolerance and individual dependence, does it really matter if the person you are dating holds a different set of political views, or maybe even doesn't care at all?

For some people, this will be a resounding, "YES!" For those who are really into politics, the idea of dating a person who disagrees with their beliefs seems impossible. After all, if a relationship is the aim, then this should be fundamentally based on common ground and shared qualities. If both parties disagree on key issues, how can they ever truly communicate with one another in the long term?

This can go as far as vital differences in how they see family roles and the upbringing of children, things that may prove difficult to reconcile further down the line. They would argue that it's better to catch these things early. In more immediate terms, dating should be fun. That's not easy if you're arguing all the way through your date, unless that's what gets you both going...

Even if you only have a more passing interest in politics, if you don't agree with someone's opinions on a number of issues it is always likely to turn you off. You start to see them differently. You begin to put up barriers and find excuses for not liking them and things are never likely to succeed from here.

Worse for some would be a date who doesn't care about politics at all. To disagree on issues is one thing, where the other person can justify and rationalise their beliefs, but to be apathetic is a different situation entirely. Some of us love to debate these issues with each other and if your date is uninformed and can't engage with the argument, it can make the whole experience fall flat. For someone very interested in politics, it may indicate that the other person doesn't care about the wider-world, making them seem self-centred and perhaps even unintelligent.

Having said all of that, politics does not have to be the end of the matter, it may instead prevent two people from having an otherwise wonderful relationship. Other than the political parties they support and certain beliefs they may have, they could make for a perfect couple, each compensating for the other's flaws.

We put red flags up all the time in our daily lives, giving ourselves excuses not to do things. Citing politics as a reason for not dating someone without getting to know them first seems to me to be a little short-sighted - you might really hit it off. It has been true for a long time that people claim support for parties based on their family history without knowing a thing about what they stand for. It's important to take things lightly.

Speed dating is best when you don't put parameters in place before you even meet someone. If you keep an open mind and take things easy you might just be rewarded. Come to our next event and see for yourself, you never know who you might meet.

Here's a few speed dating events in London that might be for you.

Last few places!
Today
Tue 25 JAN

Speed Dating in Tooting

Tue 25 Jan 2022

The Wheatsheaf, Tooting

NEW - Tooting's busiest speed date at this South London institute.

Tickets

£20

£12

Age guide

23-35

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2

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Wed 26 JAN

Speed Dating in Central London

Wed 26 Jan 2022

Perini & Perini, Central London

The easiest way to meet someone new, normally 18 fast dates in one very fun night.

Tickets

£20

Age guide

28-38

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6+

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Thu 27 JAN

Speed Dating in Clapham

Thu 27 Jan 2022

Sugar Cane, London, Clapham Junction

You'll typically meet 15-18 people for our popular speed dating event at this very cool Clapham v...

Tickets

£20

Age guide

23-35

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6+

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Thu 27 JAN

Speed Dating in Maidstone

Thu 27 Jan 2022

Mu Mu, Maidstone

NEW - Join us for Maidstone's busiest speed dating event at this unique venue.

Tickets

£20

Age guide

30-45

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5

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5

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Fri 28 JAN

Friday Night Speed Dating

Fri 28 Jan 2022

Dion - St Pauls, London, City

It's our busiest event of the week. 25 dates and no work tomorrow. You just can't beat this event.

Tickets

£22

Age guide

30-45

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5

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6

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Sat 29 JAN

Saturday Night Speed Dating

Sat 29 Jan 2022

Perini & Perini, Central London

Join up to 40 people for this busy Saturday night speed dating event in Central London. Read more.

Tickets

£22

Age guide

23-35

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6+

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6+

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Sat 29 JAN

Saturday Night Speed Dating

Sat 29 Jan 2022

Pavilion End, St Pauls

NEW - It's Saturday Night Speed Dating in The City. Meet around 20 dates for a great night out.

Tickets

£22

Age guide

30-45

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6+

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6+

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Tue 1 FEB

Speed Dating in Clapham

Tue 1 Feb 2022

Sugar Cane, London, Clapham Junction

You'll typically meet 15-18 people for our popular speed dating event at this very cool venue.

Tickets

£20

£14

Age guide

23-35

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6+

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6+

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Wed 2 FEB

Chinese Speed Dating

Wed 2 Feb 2022

Perini & Perini, Central London

London's only speed dating event especially for people of Chinese descent. Book now.

Tickets

£20

Age guide

25-40

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8

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10+

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Thu 3 FEB

Speed Dating in Islington

Thu 3 Feb 2022

The Bull, London, Islington

Islington's busiest speed date at this trendy North London venue.

Tickets

£20

Age guide

23-35

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10+

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10+

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Thu 3 FEB

Gay Speed Dating

Thu 3 Feb 2022

Yotel, London, Clerkenwell

Join us for gay speed dating and meet around 15 men. Did we mention a free welcome drink?

Tickets

£20

Age guide

25-45

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10+

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Fri 4 FEB

Friday Night Speed Dating

Fri 4 Feb 2022

Dion - St Pauls, London, City

It's our busiest event of the week. 25 dates and no work tomorrow. You just can't beat this event.

Tickets

£22

Age guide

30-45

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10+

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10+

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Sat 5 FEB

Saturday Night Speed Dating

Sat 5 Feb 2022

Perini & Perini, Central London

Join up to 40 people for this busy Saturday night speed dating event in Central London. Read more.

Tickets

£22

Age guide

23-35

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10+

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10+

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Sat 5 FEB

Saturday Night Speed Dating

Sat 5 Feb 2022

Pavilion End, St Pauls

NEW - It's Saturday Night Speed Dating in The City. Meet around 20 dates for a great night out.

Tickets

£22

Age guide

30-45

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10+

Female left

10+

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Book now!
Tue 8 FEB

Speed Dating in Tooting

Tue 8 Feb 2022

The Wheatsheaf, Tooting

NEW - Tooting's busiest speed date at this South London institute.

Tickets

£20

£12

Age guide

23-35

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10+

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10+

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Tue 8 FEB

Speed Dating Over 40s

Tue 8 Feb 2022

Perini & Perini, Central London

Join us for some speed dating in Oxford Circus and meet around 15 people!

Tickets

£30

Age guide

40-55

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10+

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10+

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Wed 9 FEB

Speed Dating in Central London

Wed 9 Feb 2022

Perini & Perini, Central London

The easiest way to meet someone new, normally 18 fast dates in one very fun night.

Tickets

£20

Age guide

28-38

Male left

10+

Female left

10+

Find out more
Book now!
Thu 10 FEB

Speed Dating in Clapham

Thu 10 Feb 2022

Sugar Cane, London, Clapham Junction

You'll typically meet 15-18 people for our popular speed dating event at this very cool Clapham v...

Tickets

£20

Age guide

23-35

Male left

10+

Female left

10+

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Book now!
Thu 10 FEB

Speed Dating in Chelmsford

Thu 10 Feb 2022

The Courtyard, Chelmsford

The busiest Speed Dating event in Chelmsford. Meet up to 20 singles in one night!

Tickets

£20

Age guide

23-35

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7

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10+

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Thu 10 FEB

Speed Dating in Maidstone

Thu 10 Feb 2022

Mu Mu, Maidstone

NEW - Join us for Maidstone's busiest speed dating event at this unique venue.

Tickets

£20

Age guide

23-35

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10+

Female left

10+

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HOW IT WORKS

The beauty of Speed Dating London lies in its no-nonsense approach. You take an equal number of single girls and guys, put them in a room and give them a few minutes to chat with every other member of the opposite sex.

When you get there

Original speed dating events in London normally begin at 7.30pm. You will need to register with our hosts and to begin with they will issue you with a score sheet. This will help you to keep track of the singles that you would like to meet again and perhaps go on a date with. After a short period of mingling, your host for the evening who will run through detailed instructions and give you your starting position if you are a guy or table for the event if you are a girl.

Meet & Mingle

A London speed dating event is split into two halves, each lasting around an hour, there will be an interval at half time of about 15 minutes for speed dating London. You will have between 4 and 5 minutes with each person, after which you need to tick a box on your score sheet - "yes, I would like to meet this person again" or "no. Thanks but no thanks". Or "friend" if you'd like to get to know them platonically. Make sure that you do this after each date to keep track. Afterwards there is an opportunity for everyone to meet and mingle informally - this is often where the real action begins, so make sure you don't disappear too quickly!

Complete your score sheet

After the event you simply tick who you liked on the Original Dating website and the site works about your matches automatically. If the dates you have ticked as a "yes" have reciprocated you have a match. You will be able to view the first names and message them via our site online without revealing your email address until you are ready to. You'll be having proper first dates in no time.