Home Blog Can you date someone with different political views?

Can you date someone with different political views?

Wednesday September 19, 2012

Main Image

For many of us, politics are a big deal. Some people are even defined by their politics and it becomes an important part of their personality. When it comes to speed dating, some people screen their matches based on their political ideals and affiliations - if they give a wrong answer, they don't have a chance. Is this fair? In a time of high levels of tolerance and individual dependence, does it really matter if the person you are dating holds a different set of political views, or maybe even doesn't care at all?

For some people, this will be a resounding, "YES!" For those who are really into politics, the idea of dating a person who disagrees with their beliefs seems impossible. After all, if a relationship is the aim, then this should be fundamentally based on common ground and shared qualities. If both parties disagree on key issues, how can they ever truly communicate with one another in the long term?

This can go as far as vital differences in how they see family roles and the upbringing of children, things that may prove difficult to reconcile further down the line. They would argue that it's better to catch these things early. In more immediate terms, dating should be fun. That's not easy if you're arguing all the way through your date, unless that's what gets you both going...

Even if you only have a more passing interest in politics, if you don't agree with someone's opinions on a number of issues it is always likely to turn you off. You start to see them differently. You begin to put up barriers and find excuses for not liking them and things are never likely to succeed from here.

Worse for some would be a date who doesn't care about politics at all. To disagree on issues is one thing, where the other person can justify and rationalise their beliefs, but to be apathetic is a different situation entirely. Some of us love to debate these issues with each other and if your date is uninformed and can't engage with the argument, it can make the whole experience fall flat. For someone very interested in politics, it may indicate that the other person doesn't care about the wider-world, making them seem self-centred and perhaps even unintelligent.

Having said all of that, politics does not have to be the end of the matter, it may instead prevent two people from having an otherwise wonderful relationship. Other than the political parties they support and certain beliefs they may have, they could make for a perfect couple, each compensating for the other's flaws.

We put red flags up all the time in our daily lives, giving ourselves excuses not to do things. Citing politics as a reason for not dating someone without getting to know them first seems to me to be a little short-sighted - you might really hit it off. It has been true for a long time that people claim support for parties based on their family history without knowing a thing about what they stand for. It's important to take things lightly.

Speed dating is best when you don't put parameters in place before you even meet someone. If you keep an open mind and take things easy you might just be rewarded. Come to our next event and see for yourself, you never know who you might meet.

Here's a few speed dating events in London that might be for you.

Last few places!
Today
Wed 25 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - London

Wed 25 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating , Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating for Londoners.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

23-35

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

1

Find out more
Sold out
Today
Wed 25 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Newcastle

Wed 25 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Newcastle.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Sold out
Today
Wed 25 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Swansea

Wed 25 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Swansea.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Sold out
Today
Wed 25 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Cardiff

Wed 25 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Cardiff.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Sold out
Today
Wed 25 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Reading

Wed 25 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Reading.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Last few places!
Thu 26 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - London

Thu 26 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating for Londoners.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

3

Female left

2

Find out more
Sold out
Thu 26 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Portsmouth

Thu 26 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Portsmouth.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Sold out
Thu 26 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - St.Albans

Thu 26 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating, Virtual location

This is St Albans busiest speed date at Hertfordshires finest cocktail bar.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Sold out
Thu 26 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Beaconsfield

Thu 26 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us for virtual speed dating in Beaconsfield and meet people online.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Last few places!
Thu 26 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Essex

Thu 26 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating Essex, Virtual Location

Join us and meet people online living in Essex

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

2

Female left

2

Find out more
Last few places!
Thu 26 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Ipswich

Thu 26 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating - Norfolk, Virtual location

Join us for virtual speed dating in Ipswich and meet people from the comfort of home.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

2

Find out more
Last few places!
Fri 27 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - London

Fri 27 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating for Londoners.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

4

Female left

4

Find out more
Book now!
Fri 27 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Cambridge

Fri 27 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us for the online, virtual speed dating event for Cambridge and surrounding areas.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

3

Female left

3

Find out more
Sold out
Fri 27 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - Bedford

Fri 27 Nov 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us for the online, virtual speed dating event for Bedford and surrounding areas.

Tickets

£20

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Book now!
Sat 28 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - London

Sat 28 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating for Londoners.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

4

Female left

4

Find out more
Last few places!
Sun 29 NOV

Virtual Speed Dating - London

Sun 29 Nov 2020

Online Speed Dating , Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating for Londoners.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

25-45

Male left

6+

Female left

6+

Find out more
Book now!
Tue 1 DEC

Virtual Speed Dating Over 40s

Tue 1 Dec 2020

Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us for some virtual speed dating for people living in and around London.

Tickets

£12

Age guide

40-55

Male left

6+

Female left

6+

Find out more
Sold out
Tue 1 DEC

Virtual Speed Dating - Bristol

Tue 1 Dec 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Bristol.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Sold out
Tue 1 DEC

Virtual Speed Dating - Sheffield

Tue 1 Dec 2020

Virtual Online Speed Dating, Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating and meet people living in and around Sheffield.

Tickets

£5

Age guide

25-45

Male left

Join
waiting list

Female left

Join
waiting list
Find out more
Book now!
Wed 2 DEC

Virtual Speed Dating - London

Wed 2 Dec 2020

Online Speed Dating , Virtual Location

Join us online for virtual speed dating for Londoners.

Tickets

£10

Age guide

23-35

Male left

6+

Female left

6+

Find out more

 

Trustpilot
ORIGINAL DATING IN THE PRESS

HOW IT WORKS

The beauty of Speed Dating London lies in its no-nonsense approach. You take an equal number of single girls and guys, put them in a room and give them a few minutes to chat with every other member of the opposite sex.

When you get there

Original speed dating events in London normally begin at 7.30pm. You will need to register with our hosts and to begin with they will issue you with a score sheet. This will help you to keep track of the singles that you would like to meet again and perhaps go on a date with. After a short period of mingling, your host for the evening who will run through detailed instructions and give you your starting position if you are a guy or table for the event if you are girl.

Meet & Mingle

A London speed dating event is split into two halves, each lasting around an hour, there will be an interval at half time of about 15 minutes. You will have between 4 and 5 minutes with each person, after which you need to tick a box on your score sheet - "yes, I would like to meet this person again" or "no. Thanks but no thanks". Or "friend" if you'd like to get to know them platonically. Make sure that you do this after each date to keep track. Afterwards there is an opportunity for everyone to meet and mingle informally - this is often where the real action begins, so make sure you don't disappear too quickly!

Complete your score sheet

After the event you simply tick who you liked on the Original Dating website and the site works about your matches automatically. If the dates you have ticked as a "yes" have reciprocated you have a match. You will be able to view the first names and message them via our site online without revealing your email address until you are ready to. You'll be having proper first dates in no time.

 

Menu

Login to your account