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Can you date someone with different political views?

Wednesday September 19, 2012

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For many of us, politics are a big deal. Some people are even defined by their politics and it becomes an important part of their personality. When it comes to speed dating, some people screen their matches based on their political ideals and affiliations - if they give a wrong answer, they don't have a chance. Is this fair? In a time of high levels of tolerance and individual dependence, does it really matter if the person you are dating holds a different set of political views, or maybe even doesn't care at all?

For some people, this will be a resounding, "YES!" For those who are really into politics, the idea of dating a person who disagrees with their beliefs seems impossible. After all, if a relationship is the aim, then this should be fundamentally based on common ground and shared qualities. If both parties disagree on key issues, how can they ever truly communicate with one another in the long term?

This can go as far as vital differences in how they see family roles and the upbringing of children, things that may prove difficult to reconcile further down the line. They would argue that it's better to catch these things early. In more immediate terms, dating should be fun. That's not easy if you're arguing all the way through your date, unless that's what gets you both going...

Even if you only have a more passing interest in politics, if you don't agree with someone's opinions on a number of issues it is always likely to turn you off. You start to see them differently. You begin to put up barriers and find excuses for not liking them and things are never likely to succeed from here.

Worse for some would be a date who doesn't care about politics at all. To disagree on issues is one thing, where the other person can justify and rationalise their beliefs, but to be apathetic is a different situation entirely. Some of us love to debate these issues with each other and if your date is uninformed and can't engage with the argument, it can make the whole experience fall flat. For someone very interested in politics, it may indicate that the other person doesn't care about the wider-world, making them seem self-centred and perhaps even unintelligent.

Having said all of that, politics does not have to be the end of the matter, it may instead prevent two people from having an otherwise wonderful relationship. Other than the political parties they support and certain beliefs they may have, they could make for a perfect couple, each compensating for the other's flaws.

We put red flags up all the time in our daily lives, giving ourselves excuses not to do things. Citing politics as a reason for not dating someone without getting to know them first seems to me to be a little short-sighted - you might really hit it off. It has been true for a long time that people claim support for parties based on their family history without knowing a thing about what they stand for. It's important to take things lightly.

Speed dating is best when you don't put parameters in place before you even meet someone. If you keep an open mind and take things easy you might just be rewarded. Come to our next event and see for yourself, you never know who you might meet.

Here's a few speed dating events in London that might be for you.

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Tue 5 MAR

Speed Dating in Tooting

Tue 5 Mar 2024

The Wheatsheaf, London, Tooting

NEW - Tooting's busiest speed date at this South West London institution.

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23-35

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Wed 6 MAR

Vegan & Vegetarian Speed Dating

Wed 6 Mar 2024

Near & Far London, London, Camden

NEW - Meet people who share your passion for vegan or veggie food at this vegan friendly venue.

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30-45

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Wed 6 MAR

Speed Dating in the City

Wed 6 Mar 2024

Jamies Tudor Street, London, The City

New - Join us for this new Wednesday evening event in the City.

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£20

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30-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Gay Speed Dating

Thu 7 Mar 2024

Komyuniti - Yotel, London, Clerkenwell

Join us for gay speed dating and meet around 15 men. Did we mention a free welcome drink?

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£20

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25-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in Clapham

Thu 7 Mar 2024

Hannah Battersea, London, Clapham Junction

You'll typically meet 15-18 people for our popular speed dating event at this very cool Clapham v...

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£20

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30-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in Islington

Thu 7 Mar 2024

The Bull, London, Islington

Islington's very one speed dating event at this ace North London venue.

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£15

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25-37

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating Manchester 20s & 30s

Thu 7 Mar 2024

Revolution Deansgate Locks, Manchester,Deansgate

Join us at this trendy hotspot in Deansgate for our popular Thursday night events.

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£15

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25-37

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in St Albans

Thu 7 Mar 2024

The Crown, St Albans, Hertfordshire

This is St Albans busiest speed date at Hertfordshires finest bar.

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£20

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30-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Lesbian Speed Dating in Manchester

Thu 7 Mar 2024

Motley Bar - Yotel, Manchester

Join us at Motley Bar for our relaxed and fun lesbian speed dating in Deansgate.

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£15

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25-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in Oxford

Thu 7 Mar 2024

St Aldates Tavern, Oxford, Oxfordshire

Oxford's busiest speed dating event. 15-20 dates in one fun night at this fab venue in the city c...

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£20

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30-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in Maidstone

Thu 7 Mar 2024

Mu Mu, Maidstone, Kent

NEW - Join us for Maidstone's busiest speed dating event at this unique venue.

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£20

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30-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in Brighton

Thu 7 Mar 2024

The Walrus, The Lanes, Brighton

*NEW VENUE* It's Brighton's best speed dating event. Join us and meet up to 15 dates at The Walrus

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£15

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30-45

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Thu 7 MAR

Speed Dating in Edinburgh

Thu 7 Mar 2024

The Barologist, Edinburgh, Leith

Edinburgh's best speed dating event at this incredible venue.

Tickets

£20

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23-35

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Fri 8 MAR

Over 50s Friday Night Speed Dating

Fri 8 Mar 2024

Langbourns, London, The City

Kick start your weekend with Friday night speed dating at our brand new venue in the heart of the...

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£25

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50-65

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Fri 8 MAR

Friday Night Speed Dating

Fri 8 Mar 2024

Dion - St Pauls, London, The City

It's our busiest event of the week. 25 dates and no work tomorrow. You just can't beat this event.

Tickets

£22

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30-45

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Fri 8 MAR

Speed Dating in Chelmsford

Fri 8 Mar 2024

The Courtyard, Chelmsford, Essex

The busiest Speed Dating event in Chelmsford. Meet up to 15 singles in one night!

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£15

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25-37

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Sat 9 MAR

Saturday Night Speed Dating - 30s & 40s

Sat 9 Mar 2024

The Kings Arms, Central London

Brand new Saturday night event in the heart of the West End.

Tickets

£22

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30-45

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Sat 9 MAR

MARCH MIXER - LOCK & KEY PARTY 2024

Sat 9 Mar 2024

The Fable, London, The City

Join us for the March Mixer Lock & Key Party. The biggest singles party in London. 300 people exp...

Tickets

£25

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30-45

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Sat 9 MAR

MARCH MIXER - LOCK & KEY PARTY - PLUS PRE-PARTY SPEED DATING

Sat 9 Mar 2024

The Fable, London, The City

Lock & Key party PLUS pre-party speed dating. Book now!

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£30

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30-45

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Tue 12 MAR

Quiz Dating

Tue 12 Mar 2024

Jamies Tudor Street, London, The City

A pub quiz and a speed dating event rolled into one. That's Quiz Dating and it's a whole lot of fun.

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£20

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30-45

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HOW IT WORKS

The beauty of Speed Dating London lies in its no-nonsense approach. You take an equal number of single girls and guys, put them in a room and give them a few minutes to chat with every other member of the opposite sex.

When you get there

Original speed dating events in London normally begin at 7.30pm. You will need to register with our hosts and to begin with they will issue you with a score sheet. This will help you to keep track of the singles that you would like to meet again and perhaps go on a date with. After a short period of mingling, your host for the evening who will run through detailed instructions and give you your starting position if you are a guy or table for the event if you are a girl.

Meet & Mingle

A London speed dating event is split into two halves, each lasting around an hour, there will be an interval at half time of about 15 minutes for speed dating London. You will have between 4 and 5 minutes with each person, after which you need to tick a box on your score sheet - "yes, I would like to meet this person again" or "no. Thanks but no thanks". Or "friend" if you'd like to get to know them platonically. Make sure that you do this after each date to keep track. Afterwards there is an opportunity for everyone to meet and mingle informally - this is often where the real action begins, so make sure you don't disappear too quickly!

Complete your score sheet

After the event you simply tick who you liked on the Original Dating website and the site works about your matches automatically. If the dates you have ticked as a "yes" have reciprocated you have a match. You will be able to view the first names and message them via our site online without revealing your email address until you are ready to. You'll be having proper first dates in no time.